(KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva

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Free download South of Forgiveness Read & Download å South of Forgiveness ò PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB A woman a man a rape and a hard journey from violence to reconciliationOne ordinary spring morning in Reykjavik Thordis Elva kisses her son and partner goodbye before boarding a plane to do an extraordinary thing fly seven thousand miles south to meet up with the man who raped her when she was just sixteenMeanwhile in Sydney Australia Tom Stran. This is a very complicated emotionally charged book that will make you feel incredibly uncomfortable in a lot of different waysIt s a bizarre project I totally understand the idea of wanting to confront this person and meet and find a way to put it behind you But flying to South Africa a place very far from both of you to do it Spending a week doing it But then everyone approaches things in their own way Who are we to decide what fits someone s forgiveness someone else s redemption This book and the authors talks have gotten a lot of controversy But I ll say this I don t agree with any of it First of all no one not rapists not murderers are as bad as the worst thing they have ever done And every survivor of violence is entitled to find their own way including Thordis If this is what works for her who are we to judge I also strongly agree with everything Thordis says in defense of the project The way the world talks about rape the focus is on the survivors which forgets the why rape exists ie rapists Rape survivors cannot prevent rape Only rapists can prevent rape So it s time we stop treating sexual violence as a women s issue Rapists are predominantly men Why doesn t that make it a men s issue Further blindly condemning for the rest of their life a rapist as nothing or less than a rapist is so futile If we refuse to allow them to come out and admit it and allow them to take responsibility and make amends how can we as a society ever hope to change the fact that rape happens If all men refuse to talk about rape if women are the only ones talking about it then we are left with this Many men don t even understand that they ve raped someone So they need to start talking To own up To put themselves on display the way many victims do To talk to each other about it as women talk about sexual assault among themselves Another thing You go into this book assuming you will sympathize with Thordis and hate Tom You do both in part but their respective roles as rapist and survivor do not dominate over the fact that they are both people I was surprised to find that on a personal level I liked Tom a lot than I liked Thordis Though to be honest I can t say I liked either of them deeply Tom was occasionally selfish in what he wanted his comment that he hopes the trip will end all communication between them considering Thordis plainly has come to depend on their emails and has a lot of complicated feelings towards their constant communication and frankly I think she loves him a bit didn t need to be said Then Thordis is just painfully petty at times She 100% has the right to be angry at him for raping her But the level of unrelated pettiness she gets to at times is just staggering and irritating Also she s deeply judgmental of people in general And sanctimonious And very fond of muttering nasty little comments in her head On the other hand even if I don t personally like them I admire and respect them both Yes even the rapist Everyone is than the worst thing they ve ever done Both Thordis and Tom embarked on this incredible project to confront themselves their own vulnerabilities their dark complicated history and come out the other side And try to share their story with other survivors and rapists to open dialogue up And the ending is very rich and satisfying And I definitely had better feelings toward both of them by the end than I did at the beginningLot of complicated feelings in this book basically La belle au bois dormant uncomfortable in a lot of different waysIt s a bizarre project I totally No Breaking My Heart Barefoot William Beach #5 understand the idea of wanting to confront this person and meet and find a way to put it behind you But flying to South Africa a place very far from both of you to do it Spending a week doing it But then everyone approaches things in their own way Who are we to decide what fits someone s forgiveness someone else s redemption This book and the authors talks have gotten a lot of controversy But I ll say this I don t agree with any of it First of all no one not rapists not murderers are as bad as the worst thing they have ever done And every survivor of violence is entitled to find their own way including Thordis If this is what works for her who are we to judge I also strongly agree with everything Thordis says in defense of the project The way the world talks about rape the focus is on the survivors which forgets the why rape exists ie rapists Rape survivors cannot prevent rape Only rapists can prevent rape So it s time we stop treating sexual violence as a women s issue Rapists are predominantly men Why doesn t that make it a men s issue Further blindly condemning for the rest of their life a rapist as nothing or less than a rapist is so futile If we refuse to allow them to come out and admit it and allow them to take responsibility and make amends how can we as a society ever hope to change the fact that rape happens If all men refuse to talk about rape if women are the only ones talking about it then we are left with this Many men don t even A Biography of Innovations understand that they ve raped someone So they need to start talking To own Ni arte ni parte up To put themselves on display the way many victims do To talk to each other about it as women talk about sexual assault among themselves Another thing You go into this book assuming you will sympathize with Thordis and hate Tom You do both in part but their respective roles as rapist and survivor do not dominate over the fact that they are both people I was surprised to find that on a personal level I liked Tom a lot than I liked Thordis Though to be honest I can t say I liked either of them deeply Tom was occasionally selfish in what he wanted his comment that he hopes the trip will end all communication between them considering Thordis plainly has come to depend on their emails and has a lot of complicated feelings towards their constant communication and frankly I think she loves him a bit didn t need to be said Then Thordis is just painfully petty at times She 100% has the right to be angry at him for raping her But the level of Ni arte ni parte unrelated pettiness she gets to at times is just staggering and irritating Also she s deeply judgmental of people in general And sanctimonious And very fond of muttering nasty little comments in her head On the other hand even if I don t personally like them I admire and respect them both Yes even the rapist Everyone is than the worst thing they ve ever done Both Thordis and Tom embarked on this incredible project to confront themselves their own vulnerabilities their dark complicated history and come out the other side And try to share their story with other survivors and rapists to open dialogue Noticias De Los Montoneros up And the ending is very rich and satisfying And I definitely had better feelings toward both of them by the end than I did at the beginningLot of complicated feelings in this book basically

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Free download South of Forgiveness Read & Download å South of Forgiveness ò PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB Nger to violence and the healing power of forgiveness South of Forgiveness is an unprecedented collaboration between a survivor and a perpetrator each eually committed to exploring the darkest moment of their lives It is a true story about being bent but not broken of facing fear with courage and of finding hope even in the most wounded of plac. One of the most remarkable books I ve ever read co authored by a rape victim and her rapist though both object to those labels and in particular to being defined by themI first heard about this book on the car radio on Woman s Hour with both of them appearing together on it to tell their story I was so gripped that when I got home I stayed in the car to hear it to the endThey met in Iceland when Thordis Elva was 16 and Tom Stranger an Australian was 18 After becoming boyfriend and girlfriend he subjected her to a brutal two hour rape when she was insensible with drink He then returned to Australia and both their lives then went off the rails before 9 years later she emailed him out of the blue and confronted him with what he d done Instead of denying it or ignoring her as she d expected he immediately replied acknowledging his crime An eight year email exchange followed which culminated in them agreeing to meet half way between Iceland and Australia in Cape Town for a week to try and resolve face to face the final issues which they had been unable to do in writing The book is the story of that weekAs a concept for a book it s mind boggling but the delivery doesn t disappoint either I was completely gripped could hardly put it down and read it in a couple of days It s an emotional rollercoaster and several times I found myself welling up while reading it but it s also astonishingly elouent particularly given that the main author is not a native English speakerWhat I find astonishing is that the book has proven controversial with some people objecting to a rapist being given publicity or a platform to speak in public How these people think that a better understanding of what causes men to rape isn t going to ultimately lead to it being less prevalent is a mystery to me but I guess that some people are interested in simple answers than in real solutionsAn excellent book If you have any doubts watch the co authors TED talk on YouTube Mapa Regional Castilla y León, Madrid unprecedented collaboration between a survivor and a perpetrator each eually committed to exploring the darkest moment of their lives It is a true story about being bent but not broken of facing fear with courage and of finding hope even in the most wounded of plac. One of the most remarkable books I ve ever read co authored by a rape victim and her rapist though both object to those labels and in particular to being defined by themI first heard about this book on the car radio on Woman s Hour with both of them appearing together on it to tell their story I was so gripped that when I got home I stayed in the car to hear it to the endThey met in Iceland when Thordis Elva was 16 and Tom Stranger an Australian was 18 After becoming boyfriend and girlfriend he subjected her to a brutal two hour rape when she was insensible with drink He then returned to Australia and both their lives then went off the rails before 9 years later she emailed him out of the blue and confronted him with what he d done Instead of denying it or ignoring her as she d expected he immediately replied acknowledging his crime An eight year email exchange followed which culminated in them agreeing to meet half way between Iceland and Australia in Cape Town for a week to try and resolve face to face the final issues which they had been A lingua de fora up while reading it but it s also astonishingly elouent particularly given that the main author is not a native English speakerWhat I find astonishing is that the book has proven controversial with some people objecting to a rapist being given publicity or a platform to speak in public How these people think that a better La belle au bois dormant ultimately lead to it being less prevalent is a mystery to me but I guess that some people are interested in simple answers than in real solutionsAn excellent book If you have any doubts watch the co authors TED talk on YouTube

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Free download South of Forgiveness Read & Download å South of Forgiveness ò PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB Ger nervously embarks on an eually life changing journey wondering whether he is worthy of this meetingAfter exchanging hundreds of searingly honest emails over eight years Thordis and Tom decided it was time to speak face to face Coming from opposite sides of the globe they meet in the middle in Cape Town South Africa a country that is no stra. This book had a lot of potential It s premise was uite uniue rape perpetrator and survivor engage in years of correspondence over the crime and then meet in person again to try and come to a point of forgivenessUnfortunately the writing style got in the way It veered into purple prose too many times and I hate to say it melodrama I hesitate using that word because it seems to belittle the horrific experience the survivor went through That s not my intention I just felt that she could have expressed herself in a matter of fact way which would have been just as if not powerful And I hate to say this but Thordis comes across to me at least as deeply unlikeable The purpose of this book isn t to like either of them I know but as a reader I needed to feel connected with the main author and that just wasn t there Her anger and outrage is there and it s understandable But it seeps out in all sorts of ways My guess is her life experiences have hardened her again understandable but a few things irked me Tom s vegetarianism and her lack of understanding or support for it was irritating Firstly doing the typical carnist thing of trying to catch him out or implying he is a hypocrite This is in reference to his shoes which she assumes are leather Then her goading of him to eat some of the pig skin on her plate That was disrespectful and inappropriateBut all this aside the best thing about this book is the effort Thordis went through to make Tom see what he did was wrong and why Male privilege and sense of entitlement are a toxic pairing He could have easily gone through his life not giving a second thought to what he had done as being wrong in any way But she was not going to remain silent on it any and that took a lot of strength and courage Date rape and being violated by someone you cared for is insidious Thordis and Tom s story is an important one I just wish it was delivered better


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  1. says: Thordis Elva ☆ 6 review characters ì PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB ☆ Thordis Elva (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva

    Thordis Elva ☆ 6 review characters ì PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB ☆ Thordis Elva Free download South of Forgiveness What is this about? South of Forgiveness is well about forgiveness Thordis Elva was raped by her then boyfriend Tom Stranger when she was 16 This book chronicles their meeting in Cape Town South Africa and their attempt to find their peace and their forgivenessWhat else is this about? Rape culture about date rape about the effects of it and

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    (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva characters ì PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB ☆ Thordis Elva This is a very complicated emotionally charged book that will make you feel incredibly uncomfortable in a lot of different waysIt’s a bizar

  3. says: Free download South of Forgiveness (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva Thordis Elva ☆ 6 review

    Free download South of Forgiveness Thordis Elva ☆ 6 review (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva This was a hard book for me to read Lets be honest people don't like to talk about rape and the rape culture tha

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    (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva I hear Thordis and Tom in a TED radio hour on Forgiveness and I am currently in training to be a volunteer on my local rape crisis center phone hotline The topic resonated obviously and I thought this might be a good book to pick up I am also thinking alot about restorative justice and Thordis's approach to Tom is uniue in that she is less vi

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    characters ì PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB ☆ Thordis Elva (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva Thordis Elva ☆ 6 review My ViewAn account of real life experience a memoir of sorts is hard to review where do you start? How do you give a star rating? And that difficulty is increased when the subject matter is so personal and yet also concerns women and

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    (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva This book had a lot of potential It’s premise was uite uniue rape perpetrator and survivor engage in years of correspondence over the crime and then meet in person again to try and come to a point of forgivenessUnfortunately the writing style got in the way It veered into purple prose too many times and I hate to say it melodrama I hesit

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    characters ì PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB ☆ Thordis Elva Thordis Elva ☆ 6 review Free download South of Forgiveness How do you go from hatred for someone else as well as for yourself to forgiveness and even some kind of friendship? This is a well written moving story It teaches so much About rape its conseuences and its context about gu

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    (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva Excellent book well written brave and truthful This book is a breakthrough with a lot of wit and beauty as well as raw pain

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    characters ì PDF, eBook or Kindle ePUB ☆ Thordis Elva (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva One of the most remarkable books I've ever read co authored by a rape victim and her rapist though both object to those labels and in particular to being defined by themI first heard about this book on the car radio on Woman's Hour wi

  10. says: Free download South of Forgiveness (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva Thordis Elva ☆ 6 review

    (KINDLE) South of Forgiveness Author Thordis Elva Somewhere between 3 and 4 stars It is hard to rate a book like this one

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  • Paperback
  • 320
  • South of Forgiveness
  • Thordis Elva
  • English
  • 12 August 2018
  • 9781911344056